Reid: Trigger warning. There’s Bible quote coming’.
Cathy: Yeah, we get a lot of comments, we love the comments and this. Comment with questions you guys sent in. Someone said, but I say unto you that whoever looketh other woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. So he felt like we were talking about…just us talking about it is wrong.
Reid: Okay. What’s.. what was the video we’re talking about?
Cathy: We’re talking about Desire.
Cathy: Desire in people and we have said in the video that.. by the way this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/
Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com/ and again like. We don’t, I don’t we get bible quotes before?
Cathy: This is the first bible quote.
Reid: this is the first Bible quote we’ve gotten, and again like I said trigger warning in a certain way being funny but if you really want to geek out on what a trigger warning is and why that‘s a serious thing, we will leave in the links. A link to a good definition for trigger warning, I don’t mean to be disrespectful but this is an interesting situation, because we also have a lot of geeky people who follow us who are not into bible quotes.
Cathy: Right, well we’re sex positive and people come here feeling like oh I can relax, this is a sex positive space
Reid: Yeah and now we’re thrown bible quotes.
Cathy: ..a judgmental bible quote
Reid: And we also have a lot of followers who were highly spiritual highly religious, lots of different religions and I’m saying no bible quotes. I’m just saying this is just interesting. It’s been 400 and whatever videos we’ve done. This is the first time we had somebody throw a bible quote.
Reid: ..but that’s not we were here to talk about. Let’s talk about lusting.
Cathy: Yes so we talked in the video about Desire and how was it is okay to desire people and desire is a fun thing and read about not just always to act on it but this person is saying that…even desire someone in your heart, you’ve already committed adultery, you’ve broken a commandment or an agreement. So I looked up the definition of lust coz I’m geeky that way…
Cathy: So according to Miriam Webster, lust is a strong feeling of sexual desire.
Cathy: So There are times... I admit I have lusted after people in my life.
Reid: You had a picture of Leonardo DiCaprio on your computer a second ago
Cathy: Yes, according to the spam email that I gotten it said that he was advocating a pill to enhance certain anatomical features.
Reid: While he was holding his Oscar which is subtle by the way.
Cathy: Yes, very subtle. So we as humans have feelings.
Reid: Now I just wonder if you know Leonardo DiCaprio has actually named his penis Oscar.
Cathy: Oh wow.
Reid: That would be awesome. I think I have to do that or name my penis Leonado DiCaprio…Leonardo I apologize if you’re watching.
Cathy: His friend.
Reid: Back to the bible.
Reid: So lust, definition of lust.
Cathy: Yeah, so I think that. So this is my personal opinion, I think that a lot of religion has been geared towards shaming or sexuality and making us feel shame and bad about ourselves and our feelings because it is a wonderful way to control humans. If I convince you that you’re wrong and shameful you’re going to much more likely do whatever I say and give up your power and not speak up for yourself.
Reid: if you’re spending all this time fighting your own urges and trying to control something that might be natural like if we had made…pooing, a bad thing like he..
Cathy: Oh there’s a certain amount of shame associated with that?
Reid: Well but…I mean, with fecal matter and stuff like that but like let’s say the bible had a quote about that ’Thou shall not poo”
Cathy: Yeah, we have to.
Reid: Yeah I mean that would be really tricky within.
Cathy: yeah so I think that humans have sexual desires that we find people attractive and even if we were in a committed monogamous relationship where you have agreed not to act on it there’s courts do not have..legally you’re not, you’re not liable for any wrongdoing if you have thoughts or feelings. We don’t really can control our thoughts just a certain extent we don’t necessarily control how we feel about things. Some of it is just who we are. So to have…to be ashamed of having feelings or sexual desire towards someone. I think that’s actually what Reid and I do the mo- ,that’s what we’re trying to counter that to let people feel embrace their sexuality and make conscience choices about how they act on them.
Reid: Yeah and con- certain situation your feelings and thoughts can be kind of creepy so what I would just referring this some kind of like jiu jitsuing the bible quote, right, if this whole thing is predicated, there are people who are much smarter than me who I learned the stuff from...